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Happy New Year!

Sydney fireworks 2013Looking back over 2017, I notice a vague sense of unease. Have I achieved enough? What could I have done that would have made this year more successful? How can I look ahead at 2018 with an increased level of optimism?

I’m sure many of you will feel the same. For me, I believe that unease is caused by not having achieved enough in my writing. I took on extra days at work and added responsibility which led to reduced writing time. I fell victim to procrastination so that even when I did have time, I didn’t write enough. Even when I knew I was falling into this trap, I found it difficult to drag myself out.

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So in 2018, I will write more and procrastinate less. I will get two new books out to my readers. One is written and one half written so that shouldn’t be too difficult. I will start the next book. I will  market all my titles. By the end of 2018, I will be earning enough from my books to support my writing ‘habit’.

At this time, I believe it’s important to focus on the positives from the year. All my family is happy and healthy. Michael and I bought an apartment which means no more dead money. Sam turned 21 and we enjoyed a celebration with our friends. Sam and Tom went overseas for the English cricket season, Tom scoring 1000 runs! They returned safely. Our family grew closer, along with extended family and friends.

the-lady-and-the-pirate-webcover-finalI published The Lady and the Pirate and have had some encouraging reviews. I joined three new writers groups which I’m sure will be a great support in future. Michael had his gall bladder out, bringing to an end a year of hell(2016). He, Sam and James began working on a farm which might lead to all sorts of opportunities in the future. James got a job offer from the Defence Force and 2018 should see him enter that organisation.

What are your regrets from 2017 and what will you do to rid yourself of them in 2018? Will you make that doctor’s appointment, apply for that job, take the plunge with a mortgage or even start writing that book you always promised yourself? Will you start studying, travel overseas, de-clutter your home or start a family? Will you take a chance on love? Will you commit to reading 50 books and leaving reviews for the authors?

36794-095Whatever you decide you will do, take action now. Don’t let this special new beginning be wasted. I’m going to make 2018 a big year for my writing. No regrets in 2018- let that be our mantra- no regrets in 2018.

Until next year

Bernadette xx

 

 

Not to do List??

My friend Martin Morris sent me this and I thought it was worth sharing, no matter what you do for a living.

 

8 Things You Should Not Do Every Day

It’s for your own good. Cut these things out of your day and you’ll see gains in productivity–not to mention happiness.

If you get decent value from making to-do lists, you’ll get huge returns–in productivity, in improved relationships, and in your personal well-being–from adding these items to your not to-do list:

Every day, make the commitment not to:

thumbnailca9dhvem.jpg1. Check my phone while I’m talking to someone.

You’ve done it. You’ve played the, “Is that your phone? Oh, it must be mine,” game. You’ve tried the you-think-sly-but-actually-really-obvious downwards glance. You’ve done the, “Wait, let me answer this text…” thing.

Maybe you didn’t even say, “Wait.” You just stopped talking, stopped paying attention, and did it.

Want to stand out? Want to be that person everyone loves because they make you feel, when they’re talking to you, like you’re the most important person in the world?

Stop checking your phone. It doesn’t notice when you aren’t paying attention.

Other people? They notice.

And they care.

Eclipse photo2. Multitask during a meeting.

The easiest way to be the smartest person in the room is to be the person who pays the most attention to the room.

You’ll be amazed by what you can learn, both about the topic of the meeting and about the people in the meeting if you stop multitasking and start paying close attention. You’ll flush out and understand hidden agendas, you’ll spot opportunities to build bridges, and you’ll find ways to make yourself indispensable to the people who matter.

It’s easy, because you’ll be the only one trying.

And you’ll be the only one succeeding on multiple levels.

Fireworks3. Think about people who don’t make any difference in my life.

Trust me: The inhabitants of planet Kardashian  are okay without you.

But your family, your friends, your employees–all the people that really matter to you–are not. Give them your time and attention.

They’re the ones who deserve it.

imagesCAUNBIMB4. Use multiple notifications.

You don’t need to know the instant you get an email. Or a text. Or a tweet. Or anything else that pops up on your phone or computer.

If something is important enough for you to do, it’s important enough for you to do without interruptions. Focus totally on what you’re doing. Then, on a schedule you set–instead of a schedule you let everyone else set–play prairie dog and pop your head up to see what’s happening.

And then get right back to work. Focusing on what you are doing is a lot more important than focusing on other people might be doing.

They can wait. You, and what is truly important to you, cannot.

Golden Cane5. Let the past dictate the future.

Mistakes are valuable. Learn from them.

Then let them go.

Easier said than done? It all depends on your perspective. When something goes wrong, turn it into an opportunity to learn something you didn’t know–especially about yourself.

When something goes wrong for someone else, turn it into an opportunity to be gracious, forgiving, and understanding.

The past is just training. The past should definitely inform but in no way define you–unless you let it.

Clouds, Palms and Sky6. Wait until I’m sure I will succeed.

You can never feel sure you will succeed at something new, but you can always feel sure you are committed to giving something your best.

And you can always feel sure you will try again if you fail.

Stop waiting. You have a lot less to lose than you think, and everything to gain.

UP the garden path7. Talk behind someone’s back.

If only because being the focus of gossip sucks. (And so do the people who gossip.)

If you’ve talked to more than one person about something Joe is doing, wouldn’t everyone be better off if you stepped up and actually talked to Joe about it? And if it’s “not your place” to talk to Joe, it’s probably not your place to talk about Joe.

Spend your time on productive conversations. You’ll get a lot more done–and you’ll gain a lot more respect.

Tropical Garden 18. Say “yes” when I really mean “no.”

Refusing a request from colleagues, customers, or even friends is really hard. But rarely does saying no go as badly as you expect. Most people will understand, and if they don’t, should you care too much about what they think?

When you say no, at least you’ll only feel bad for a few moments. When you say yes to something you really don’t want to do you might feel bad for a long time–or at least as long as it takes you to do what you didn’t want to do in the first place